Sunday, October 28, 2007

IT and Dowry- Are they Anti?

I know i came up wit a crap title looking for praaasa[:D]....

This post is about an article in Hindu by Chandra Kommera which was titled "IT revolution and declining dowry practice".(28 th October, Hyd edition, page 14)....Its an open page where people can write in and it gets published.
Major contents of article are as follow....

1. Men getting high end job....much of salary goin into savings, making them rupee millionaires in short time(how short is it anyway!....dont talk abt dollar earning junta...India ke junta ke baare mein bhi socho na!)......they are reluctant to ask/accept dowry as they do not need to care for money!!(Oh ppl who earn enuf dont worry abt money anymore!!....wat a conclusion!)....Even when parents are insisting....the youth are refusing(Not always....in 90% of cases....its the parents who ask since the guys themselves dont want it but cant "disappoint" his parents....ahaa!!....if men are strong enuf...they shud be able to convince their parents....else its the same thing....the men are asking for dowry anthey!)

2. On par with men, women are also getting highly paid jobs. This making them assert themselves are reject any marriage proposals from men who ask for dowry(Oh c'mon now....there mite be women like this but they wud actually not fit into the arranged marriage scenario....also its the women who expect money from their parents as well....in the form of property...gold and what not!!..... There are few who dont expect but most of the women do expect money from parents for their future families!)

3. Inter caste marriages....with teh advent of IT jobs...a new social class emerged who way of life is homogeneous across castes(mmmm....yeah agree to some extent....but even now caste rules the basis for many and it rings a bell for almost many pairs..... wat the author is discussing is restricted to about 5% of marriages many be).....This gave an opportunity for the youth to look beyond their caste resulting in more choices(Oh man!! I strongly believe that in arranged marriages....caste is still the major and top most criterion for selecting partners....look beyond is only for some people who fall in love or are quite liberal in their views and were able to convince their parents as well).

4. Increasing financial independence at a young age is prompting the youth to opt for love marriages rather than arranged marriages which lead to non dowry marriages (vammo!!....devudaaa!!.... this is one of the most erroneous statement in the whole article....financial independence is okay....the word "prompting" is an impromptu.....people aren't prompted to opt for love coz of financial independence....love was thr since ages....just tht they get to marry their chosen one now much easily than before due to this independence...but this is not the reason to opt for love!!..... and who said tht all love marriages are non dowry ones!!....parents still give their kids what they planned to and it cannot be called dowry since the groom or even the bride isint demanding it.....its just the parents love that is making them give wat they wanted to.....this is just one side of the coin....but true most of the times.....)

5.The girls parents are preferring a less dowry/non dowry/software engineer to IAS/IPS grooms.(now now this mite be true for various reasons....they prefer less dowry non dowry and software engineer only when the guy is settled....well to do family and all...else u look back...there are so many marriages which still have dowry going on in the background....Its a matter of pride and prestige(cooker :P)....even for the guy to flaunt how much their wives get from home..... and I agree many families are taking it the other way round...but majority still runs on this and there is no denial of it).

Over all..... I would seriously condemn the act of dowry.....but the article's conclusions are all based on the wrong reasons and I don't support it. I was surprised that a news paper like Hindu published this article without much data and facts to prove the statements that he made......Either way....gave me a chance to discuss how dowry is handled and dealt with.... I am talking from a telugu household perspective since I am form one.....If this blog content has hurt someone's sentiments or ego or morale..... Go hide in a cave[:P]..... This is my blog and i rule over here......

Tuesday, October 02, 2007

School Days.....Those Silly Times

It was sunday morning and me and my school frend somnath were sitting at nrupatunga degree college to write our mock cat exam and we had some more time to go....we were discussing abt sentiments during exams and that is the reason why we stuck to the same stationary we used when we got lucky in our exams..... then we went back to school days and som was asking me if i remembered how he n vamsi use to sharpen the already speck like pencils and use them....he he i rem it all too.....they even used to put pen caps onto it to gain support for their miniature art pencil pieces and write up with it....the talk ended n exam started..../yes night i was thinking about school days and then i went into splits of laughter for i cud remember so many crazy things we did in school!!....

1. I remember some pencil sharpening competition of sort that happened and ppl shapened their pencils as much as they cud n made them teh smallest ones on this earth and laid them besides each other above the green board in the classroom.....

2. I remember pavani kicking me hard on my butt for various number of times when i came to school and was placing my basket in the shelf....and one fine day, she gave that kick of hers to my innocent sis who accidentally looked like me from behind....he he

3. I remember the 9th class days when me anirudh n sandeep sat in one bench and sandeep use to fart so much that me n ani used to scold him directly for doin it since teh smell was unbearable....

4. I remember sitting besides sridhar and raghu in 9th class and used to tease sridhar for every second word that he used to say.....

5. I remember sitting in front of neeharika vamsi and pratyusha and vamsi always cracking insane out of the mind jokes on pratyusha..... whenever she used to kick him and feel that she has given him a hard kick...he used to coolly turn arnd and say" did you call me...looked like u patted on my shoulder!!"

6. I remember how we used to tease social sir in 9th class when everybody tried poking him with their dividers and that sir so engrossed in his teaching missed it all.....

7. I remember how boys used to wait for ramanamma didi's class in 10th....she was my fav teacher in school but the guys loved it for all the wrong reasons!!

8. I remember how shobha didi, our English teacher dozed off while correcting my notes in 9th class and i dared to pick up two fighting lice from her hair since i cudnt resist myself from picking them up.....

9. I remember how i used to fight with phani who used to sit in front of me in 10th for he never allowed to park my feet under his sitting bench!!.... I actually hated him le....

10. I remember how vamsi used to enlighten shivaramakrishna in 10th class, sitting in teh first bench and how they used to bend down unable to control the laughter from their own silly jokes....

11. I remember how sravanthi used to laugh away at the silliest of vamsi's jokes and gasped out of excessive laughter...she is still like tht and does it even now le[:D]....

12. I remember that silly jayashree didi making me sit with chandrika and harmeet since she dint want me and sravanthi to sit together!!.... It was still fun coz chanakya and vamsi craked the most sick jokes on naveen and me harmeet and chandrika always had our ears glued to what they were saying(even in classes).... its different that vamsi was trying to impress chandrika in the process and must say he did a gud job[:P]....

13. I remember how pavani teh great, anirudh and raju used to tease me with that silly first bencher....forgot his name..... tht bakka boy who used to irritate me...someone help me with it.....

14. We remember how we teased vamsi with shilpa all thru and how shamelessly we used to call her when we were with him and tease them in front of each other and how she used to try to hush us but pavani shall never stop[:D]

15. I remember how I.Archana once told pavani that she liked anirudh a lot coz he respects girls when they both were prefects in 10th...and yet very happily chat away with vamsi and its different that vamsi liked it[:)]....

16. I remember those exams where me n sravanthi copied papers together, specially the maths ppr where i used to pass additionals together....but it returns back to me by the end of the exam le[:D].... I always copied social pprs and map pointings which i hated to do....

17. I remember this vauge incident when sravanthi fout with sudha did coz she gave 5/5 to vamsi for map pointing for the really crap work of his with just a pencil while sravanthi managed a gud job with her color pencils and her work waa correct too...since i was just standing along with her when she was asking...i got a half mark too!!...tht made it 4.5 marks le....he he

18. I remember me n suddi walking down teh road every evening to mothers junior college for our tuition classes and looking at our beloved guys playing volley ball or throw ball in school grounds which was visible from that building of ours and we used to try guessing names of the people who were playing[:D]

19. I remember those serious power harmony battles that were waged against each other when it was time for group wise matches or display boards or cultural activities...it was different that we won the shield that year even with our captain somnath not working[:P]....

20. I remember teh power wisdom finals for throw ball that was won by wisdom due to partiality of our games teacher to wisdom group coz her son was in that....atleast this was what was thot so among teh power grp guys and they all sat on teh steps and cried for long..... i think pavani n suddi also went for consoling them...

21. I remember how we hated jayashree didi and her partiality towards her A section ppl and never bother to do her home work or listen to classes of hers...we used to get bored of her physics class sometimes and used to bug anirudh to ask one of his iit physics questions so that she will be involved in that and leave the teaching for a while[:D]

22. I remember the biology classes of sita didi where i answered all of her questions in one of her lessons....he he i think she was impressed with me that day....

23. I remember that half yearly exams in 9th when we used to pray for games sir as invigilator and we were the only lucky room who had him for 3 exams out of 6...he he...how he used to encourage us to copy and exchange pprs...sravanthi n me in teh last two benches and anirudh across....pavani paapam pichhi munda...first bench nunchi arichesi maree answers sampadinchedi...inka rubber meeda answers for objective raseesi pass chesukovatam....it was wonderful.... we used to laugh shout demand answered sheets from others..he he...i rem askign anirudh for the objective answers n cross verifying with someone else if he marked a diff answer for teh same question.....

24. I remember how we used to disturb vihar and involve him in unnecessary argument so as to irritate sowbhagya didi in class so that she gets into that argument and not teach for a while.....he he...

25. I remember all the teachers who taught us well enuf....nalini didi for anything n everything....prafulla didi for english and physics....soubhagya didi for english.... lakshmi didi for maths.... ramanamma didi for telugu... sudha didi for social i hated the subject toh...she taught us history and civics...sita did for biology...she was the best.....unfortunately we never had a gud teacher for hindi anyday....meena didi did a decent job toh....

26. lakshmi did used to teach us maths in class and tanaki ae sound ochhina kooda duster meedaki visiresedi[:D]....he he...

27. I remember how anirudh used to walk out of maths unit test after ten mins of the exam saying he is done with it!!....we wud still be starting to solve when he is already done...huh[:D]

28. I remember how we ten people got close together in tenth when we were seperated from teh rest of the class...they were wonderful times.... malla alanti roojule raavu.....

29. I remember how we used to play thumbs in class after every class and how we were foolish enuf to play thumbs and statue together....mundu statue cheppi veera baadudu bade vallu vamsi n anirudh atleast...rei i still dont forgive u guys for it[huh]...enta gattiga kottesevaru...oka saari pavani edchesindi kooda...nenu peddaga react ayye danni kadu le...he he.... inka jolly game kooda...tega neelige vallam...if im not wrong..sravanthi never lost to anybody...rooju jolly pettukune ochhesedi[:D]

30. I remember the running race between me an sravanthi where we never fought to be first but always wanted both of us to be in the top two[:D]

Inka chala unnayi...cant rem any ryt now.....gurthosthey naku cheppandi add chesesta[:D]

Anirudh adds these

31.dude.......wait a minute.....
I.Archana actually liked me? Some girl actually liked me in school? Whoa.....NICE!!!!

32. I remember how one day pavani pulled held my collar and pulled it because I had written her name on the board (prefect business man). The shirt ripped and I was pained by every didi the rest of the day.....I even remember the incident when she threw my pencil box out in to the corridor which landed right in front of srivalli didi. I was given a nice bashing in the staff room.

33. I remember how forehead stood for a, eyes for b, nose of c and the chin for d in the objective papers......I loved them man.....girls from all directions were looking at me for pointers.....he he......I remember how I, vamsi, somnath used to make fun of sandeep with all those insane jokes...

34. I remember how I and ramesh used to conduct our own parallel biology classes in the back benches.....thats when they decided....aaah theres no solution to this problem than to separate us.....then I entered the third bench behind pavani......

35. I remember how forehead stood for a, eyes for b, nose of c and the chin for d in the objective papers......I loved them man.....girls from all directions were looking at me for pointers.....he he......

36. Yeah now I remember there was one more girl who liked me......you remember that girl....who was like really really crazy about me....I forgot her name.....
she finally tied a rakhi and everybody said it was my independence day.....
I handled the situation really bad man....I hurt her soooooooo much.....I cant imagine how rude I was to her in those days.......but hey....I did pay back later on in life....dint I? ;)....(rei btw tht girl's name is keerthi gayathri and she fell in love later on with someone else and is fine now[:D]....)

37. I remember how you sravvi and vamsi used to crack jokes about everyone else in the universe.....we knew it....everybody knew it.....that you people were sinfully judgemental about everything......huh(rei ani tht was so true telsa...we used to comment on all u ppl too!!...cant believe u ppl still dint forget tht[:D])

38. I remember that guy whom we teased you with......but I just cant get his name man.....aaah.....

40. I remember sandeep giving a five star to pavani (he really really liked her)....man believe me.....he used to tell me senti things about pavani......OMG.....
pavani dint take it though....
and yeah sandeep used to sing the song....chaand chupa baadal mein....for her all the time......dude....seriously....not making it up.......

41. I remember how raju used to crack total hifi jokes....first bench and he used to give me a lot of trouble when I was the prefect.......man.....I love those days.....

more to come up form my side soon...im collecting them all!!

42. Vamsi always said the wrong words and bad words to his beloved hindi teacher shobha didi thinking that she doesnt understand telugu bad words and one fine day pushapa did said" vamsi i know how great ur vocab is and shobha didi already told me what all u say in class!!"....wat a shock it was for him...he he

43. Raju gadu naku chala sieltn ane gurthu 10th lo...but i rem he used to tease tht fellow in first bench a lot....he he he