Saturday, January 18, 2014

To Love what you Hate

After a really long time.....I felt like blogging again....Life has been moving so fast that I lost track of time and the motivation to blog slowly faded.....not that Life is busy.....we always have time for things we like to do and food we like to eat....Just that I became lazy to think and blog....You might say that my posts dont warrant any thinking :P Both while writing and reading...but then, I choose to stick to my own opinion here!!!

Anyway, to start off, this post was meant to discuss the point or rather the topic of loving or trying to love what we hate....I hardly discuss my work in my blog....In fact, I never post my job related stuff in my blogs....and I dont like to.....but today is different.....

Just like any other phases of our life, our work life teaches us a lot of things....things we hoped we learnt earlier....After moving to America, I did get to be a part of many projects for different clients.....and I enjoy that uncertainty and ambiguity in projects (not in life toh :P)....Every client I worked for and every project I was on, taught me something important, more important than the project itself.....I have to go back in time to start the story :P....

Going back to the days I was in IIT Madras, I loved my 2 years of MBA....I enjoyed every course I took and made some awesome memories for myself.....Amidst all this, there was one thing I very carefully avoided....and that was Finance....Yes, I hate Finance subjects and except for the mandatory ones, I completely opted out of all Fin related courses.....and its was a clear choice for me....I will never be in that domain and I dont need to get any deeper than I did.....

and when I fast-forward to today, I am working in an amazing project for a Finance team...and it deals a lot with P&L and Invoicing etc. which is basic stuff in Finance...and then I get to learn the complexities of business rules etc. etc. which define their core process....Initially, I was excited and motivated about the project, but that hatred for Finance stayed intact.....and after a solid 5 months into the project, I kinda started to like Finance....what changed me is an interesting story.....there is always a point or moment that changes or rather enlightens us.....

Read somewhere that when life gives you a Rahul, make a Dravid out of it, not Gandhi :P.....To enjoy what you are doing and to really contribute, there is always a passion you would need to share, not just for the project but for the people you are working for and what they truly value....Fortunately, I got an amazing manager to work with and they entire work revolved around Finance....its like trying to eat chocolate ice cream without chocolate in it....its still ice cream but then, without the chocolate....you are loosing the real flavor and taste....so I decided to explore a little more into the Finance space and to be honest, I started enjoying it.....in bits and pieces initially and now, I am very delighted that I made a choice to explore this domain....the basics of Finance are always simple, its humans who surrounded it with complexity :P.....

I was carefully making great progress on my project and learning what it takes, to implement what the client team wanted....and it was a good journey....but somewhere, there was a minor disconnect.....I would understand their process but not why they do it that way and why not another way....and what is their underlying reason for doing what they are doing......since my hatred for finance dominated everything else....I never went deeper into the domain....and after a point.....there was this moment....I can keep running away from it and still implement the project....but would that really make me any richer( in terms of knowledge, not money :P).....would that give me a sense of satisfaction when I look back in life....and I knew the answer is a No.....and to be honest, I wanted the answer to be a Yes and I knew I could turn it into a Yes since it had no dependencies on anything or anyone else.....

and after all these days, I realized that nothing in life is worth hating....and when I use the word Nothing....I literally mean NOTHING....there will be things you will like less of....but if you ever have things you completely hate....you should give it a shot.....When it comes to food, I will try everything....even things I hate eating.....but when it comes to people and opinions....Some of my perceptions are so strong that I dont want to think or give it another chance....and if I can give the food I eat, another chance, why not people and perceptions.....

Some of my first impressions were definitely not the best impressions and some of the first impressions on my bestest friends is so horrible that I wonder how did I end up where I am today....and I think, its all because I gave it another chance.....another chance to trust that things will be different and better this time, if I am sincere in my thoughts and deeds, that is....I always and still continue to believe that whatever happens, happens for a reason....and more often than not, for a good reason.....Its the learning from it that is more important than the event/persons/thing itself.....

So today, I choose to not hate anything....momentarily yes, but not for long....and certainly not forever.....Give everything a second, third and 4th chance if needed, because its not that Thing that needs to change, its your perception of that, which needs to change ....and it will....if not the first day, eventually it will....and with time flying by so quickly these days, the sooner you take chances, the faster it is, to turn your hatred to love...and if not love, may be a neutral state of indifference.....

I have to admit that I was not in complete flow today, I paused many a times....which is not the case when I talk :P....and I am still trying to get back to that original flow which I normally have, when I blog.....taking a second chance very soon......

Cheers,
Sahi