IT and Dowry- Are they Anti?

I know i came up wit a crap title looking for praaasa[:D]....

This post is about an article in Hindu by Chandra Kommera which was titled "IT revolution and declining dowry practice".(28 th October, Hyd edition, page 14)....Its an open page where people can write in and it gets published.
Major contents of article are as follow....

1. Men getting high end job....much of salary goin into savings, making them rupee millionaires in short time(how short is it anyway!....dont talk abt dollar earning junta...India ke junta ke baare mein bhi socho na!)......they are reluctant to ask/accept dowry as they do not need to care for money!!(Oh ppl who earn enuf dont worry abt money anymore!!....wat a conclusion!)....Even when parents are insisting....the youth are refusing(Not always....in 90% of cases....its the parents who ask since the guys themselves dont want it but cant "disappoint" his parents....ahaa!!....if men are strong enuf...they shud be able to convince their parents....else its the same thing....the men are asking for dowry anthey!)

2. On par with men, women are also getting highly paid jobs. This making them assert themselves are reject any marriage proposals from men who ask for dowry(Oh c'mon now....there mite be women like this but they wud actually not fit into the arranged marriage scenario....also its the women who expect money from their parents as well....in the form of property...gold and what not!!..... There are few who dont expect but most of the women do expect money from parents for their future families!)

3. Inter caste marriages....with teh advent of IT jobs...a new social class emerged who way of life is homogeneous across castes(mmmm....yeah agree to some extent....but even now caste rules the basis for many and it rings a bell for almost many pairs..... wat the author is discussing is restricted to about 5% of marriages many be).....This gave an opportunity for the youth to look beyond their caste resulting in more choices(Oh man!! I strongly believe that in arranged marriages....caste is still the major and top most criterion for selecting partners....look beyond is only for some people who fall in love or are quite liberal in their views and were able to convince their parents as well).

4. Increasing financial independence at a young age is prompting the youth to opt for love marriages rather than arranged marriages which lead to non dowry marriages (vammo!!....devudaaa!!.... this is one of the most erroneous statement in the whole article....financial independence is okay....the word "prompting" is an impromptu.....people aren't prompted to opt for love coz of financial independence....love was thr since ages....just tht they get to marry their chosen one now much easily than before due to this independence...but this is not the reason to opt for love!!..... and who said tht all love marriages are non dowry ones!!....parents still give their kids what they planned to and it cannot be called dowry since the groom or even the bride isint demanding it.....its just the parents love that is making them give wat they wanted to.....this is just one side of the coin....but true most of the times.....)

5.The girls parents are preferring a less dowry/non dowry/software engineer to IAS/IPS grooms.(now now this mite be true for various reasons....they prefer less dowry non dowry and software engineer only when the guy is settled....well to do family and all...else u look back...there are so many marriages which still have dowry going on in the background....Its a matter of pride and prestige(cooker :P)....even for the guy to flaunt how much their wives get from home..... and I agree many families are taking it the other way round...but majority still runs on this and there is no denial of it).

Over all..... I would seriously condemn the act of dowry.....but the article's conclusions are all based on the wrong reasons and I don't support it. I was surprised that a news paper like Hindu published this article without much data and facts to prove the statements that he made......Either way....gave me a chance to discuss how dowry is handled and dealt with.... I am talking from a telugu household perspective since I am form one.....If this blog content has hurt someone's sentiments or ego or morale..... Go hide in a cave[:P]..... This is my blog and i rule over here......